Anyway, before John left for work he asked me if there was anything I needed from him just incase he couldn't make it to the appointment. I asked him if that meant that he might not make it to the appointment and he said that they were throwing a going away party for someone after work and that he wanted to go. I told him no, that I didn't need anything from him, but he must have seen that it upset me and said never mind that he would be there. He didn't say it mean or anything like that and it certainly wasn't like "ughhhh fine, ill go" but it still upset me.
I messaged him while he was at work giving him the out, letting him know that he doesn't have to be there because I can do it myself and he replied that "it was fine and that he has to grow up anyway." It is nice to see that he realized he was wrong, but I'm still upset. I could have left it and just had him come and ignored that it even happened at all, but I just couldn't do that. I was honest with him and told him that it didn't matter whether he came or not because now if he comes I will still sit there the whole time thinking in the back of my head about how he doesn't want to be there. He said he did want to be there and we left it like that for a few hours.
Later, he messaged me and asked if I could call up to see if they could reschedule for an earlier time. Once again, I probably could have called up, maybe would have gotten an earlier time, he could have came and then still had time to meet up with his co-workers, and we both would have had it our way, but I just didn't want to do that. I have been looking forward to this and I am just disappointed that he doesn't share in that excitement. I dream about how I would have liked the situation to have happened, how he would have been looking forward to the appointment like me, and how they would have told him about the party, and naturally in his head he wouldn't have second guessed about where he would rather go. A girl can dream, can't she?
I just wish he was excited like I am. I wish he had wanted to go because he actually wanted to go, not because I am upset that he didn't want to go. I wish that he would take the initiative to do things to prepare for this baby and that it wasn't me always have to micromanage things like setting up our apartment. I wish that this all came naturally to him and that he would have snapped into baby mode the second I told him I was pregnant. I wish a lot of things... I also wish that they all came true.
But now here is where I want your input. Am I overreacting? It isn't like I am yelling at him or starting a huge fight, I'm home alone while he is at work and I let myself cry over it for a few minutes and then just said snap out of it and get over it. But still, I feel like I may be overreacting and wasted my tears on a completely stupid situation. Maybe it is just the hormones that are blowing everything out of proportion for me. But here is why I think I might be overreacting: First, why should he be excited for a pediatrician visit? It's not really anything that exciting. Second, the point of the appointment is to meet the pediatrician. John has already met the pediatrician because it was his pediatrician when he was younger, so why should I expect him to want to miss out on this party to do this? And third, he was trying. He did admit that he knew he should go and he asked me to reschedule so that he could do both, so obviously it's not like he's being a complete dead beat dad or anything.
Sometimes it's hard though to take yourself out of the situation and to see whether or not you handled it correctly, that's why I need your help! I added a poll for you guys to take! If you want, you can leave comments too!
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